Emotional Intelligence, Rediscovering My Well-Being Part III

Emotional Intelligence
Rediscovering My Well-Being Part III

Emotional Intelligence is an acquired trait?

As I studied emotional intelligence, I considered the human brain and marveled at its skillfull abilities, which led to the understanding that a person, who uses emotional intelligence has captured the acquired trait of reacting with response ability, by the act of appropriate, spiritual, graceful, and kind behavior in a situation. A person, who reacts irrational lacks emotional intelligence in a situation. 

Certain areas of the human brain help us to control our thoughts and actions. At the very back of the brain near the neck area, we find the reptilian brain which is formed six months in utero. The reptilian brain is our lowest base instincts which tells us when we are hungry and tired. This is our impulse control. Just above the reptilian brain is the limbic system and this is where our emotions are formed. The cortex begins to mature by the ages of 6 or 7, by 12 or 13 it has partially matured, and by 20 it has fully matured. This means we have the ability to think with our cortex because the cortex is where our core values generate. Our cortex helps us to control our limbic system and reptilian brain by allowing us to discern,“Does this make sense? Is this what I want?" or "Will this help with my long-term goals because my short-term and long-term goals are at odd with each other".

To acquire the trait of emotional intelligence is to refine our personality and character by our response in everyday life. When faced with a difficult situation, we think through what upset us and our response to it.because there is a time and place for everything. This acquired trait is a tremendous gift because it brings us to a higher level of thought, We are led by our intellect or philosophy, and philosophy is led by core values. What we choose to think controls our emotions because emotions are unformed and not contained.

Our core values help us control our emotions by controlling our thoughts, speech, and actions. We understand “It isn’t all about me” because we are considerate of the feelings of others. We focus on the big picture of progress and not perfection. We are aware of “I am worthy of love and respect, as I AM. I cannot always please others or fulfill their needs." Everyone has essential value whether or not others judge them positively, and those around us deserve our respect. 

Those, who acquire emotional intelligence are more successful than those, who lack emotional intelligence. Why? Emotional intelligence is the indication of faithfulness by putting off instant gratification for the long-term pleasure.